Win The Relationship

From: Boyd Bailey Ministries

Colossians 4:6 “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”

Mature followers of Jesus learn to argue well. But, have you ever been frustrated in trying to communicate with someone you care deeply about? Yes, we all have. It’s not uncommon to have conflict reflected in caring communication. So how can we learn to argue well? One way is to use language laced with grace and seasoned with sensitivity.

Like selective seasonings over a tasty meal, we want our words to be attractive and appetizing. To argue well requires unfiltered debate, but not unfiltered attitudes. It’s a patient and respectful attitude that solicits the best response. So for example, when a friend, co-worker, child or spouse speaks with concern we listen with understanding. The goal is win the relationship, and not to out debate the other in a defensive exchange.

Persuasive speech without prayerful preparation becomes manipulation. Thus spirited discussions required a Spirit-filled engagement, not carnal combativeness. One of Job’s friends ask a rhetorical question about a wise man’s words, “Would he argue with useless words, with speeches that have no value” (Job 15:2)? No, wisdom measures words well.

Therefore, learn to argue well by listening well and comprehending the heart of the one communicating with you. Those who argue well grow in respect, love, trust and understanding of each other. Everyone wins with these Christ-honoring outcomes. By faith—be vulnerable and initiate authentic conversation.

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1).